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Monday, May 14. 2007
 One awful cry and the world suddenly changed. It was exhilarating to see your boy for the first time, finally out from his mother's womb! For nine months, I waited patiently, took extra care for the soon-to-be bundle of joy in the family. The excruciating pain and the gory mess -- it's all worthwhile for I'm no longer just a man. I'm a proud father.
Sunday, May 13. 2007
I've got a treasure and I call him Billy. He was brave and strong, and even had the boyish charm of his dad. Of course, I wanted him to be as mighty as the Superman of the house. But I didn't know, he'll turn out rougher than I intended to. I'm getting tired of the weekly complaints from school. It's even a shame to be confronted by another parent who pleads that my Billy should stop bullying kids.
Saturday, May 12. 2007
I didn't know exactly how Billy turned into a bully. Perhaps, I am to blame. I taught him to be strong, maybe too strong! So I took this challenge as a father. I started bullying him, too. I wanted him to feel the same pain and understand his lesson. After a week, he tearfully complained and that's when I explained why bullying is bad for kids like him.
Friday, May 11. 2007
 Before we slump on bed with our weary minds and exhausted bodies, remember to bid goodbye just before you close your eyes. The night is a promise for a beautiful tomorrow. While you pray, remember to leave your child with lovely memories to bear. They can only be kids for a short time and once they hit 18, they'll be gone and never to be found like the way they used to be. Wish your kid a sweet slumber every night and they'll think of you all way through.
Thursday, May 10. 2007
Tucking your tads into bed is a good way to express love and care. Seize the moment to read to them, or to talk and play. I'm sure your child has plenty to say about you and his day. When you share time and devote attention, he's more likely to heed and listen to you. During this soft moments, children are more vulnerable. They appreciate everything you do and will always slip into peace with a smile. Whether it's kiss or a hug, never leave their room without giving them one.
Wednesday, May 9. 2007
My friend, Alice, is a single mom. When she comes home from the office, she goes straight to bed, oblivious of the boy waiting for her caress. She's been too tied up at work that she entrusted her boy to a nanny. Life became easier to bear but one time, when she walked into the room, she saw how her child snuggled with his nanny. For Alice, it's just heartbreaking to see his boy become a stranger. So even when we're tired and grouchy, step into your child's room and share the llove before you say goodnight.
Tuesday, May 8. 2007
One night, you were driving and laughing with a beautiful passenger. Then suddenly, your tires explode, your car loses control and skids off the road. You wake up, and see yourself all covered in blood, your body screaming in pain. By your side is the figure of a female body shrouded in white blanket. You try desperately to hold on to her but there's nothing you can do that could bring your dead wife back to life. This is how Jason relives his nightmare everynight. He's a widow but also a single dad. Before he closes his eyes, he always wishes that it would all be just a bad dream because his kids are in real need of a mommy.
Monday, May 7. 2007
When it comes to raising a child and keeping a home, no one does it better than a woman. You may try to be the best dad but there will always be a hollowed spot for a mother's touch. And this is Brian's dilemma. Every day that passes by makes him all the more certain that without his wife, they can't be a real family. There are times when he's about to blow his top and he always wonders how his wife, Lola, would handle the situation. Although he's totally commited to give his children the best, he needs a partner to fill in for his weaknesses and shortcomings. So he hired a nanny in hopes that her kids won't miss out on decent meals and gentle comfort and care.
Sunday, May 6. 2007
 I don't know exactly what a good nanny is. Even if they're educated and cultured to train and rear your child properly, it's not easy to establish rapport with the kids. It can be crucial and critical at times especially when the kids are not always fond of strangers in the house. So what are my criteria in hiring a nanny? There's only one. A good nanny is like a mommy-- someone who'll treat my kids like her own. Because if you love truly, you'll always care even after your paid hours. Having the characteristic of a reall mommy, she'll be sensitive and firm in her commitment to the kids' well-being. Of course, nannies can't replace a mommy but you can be damn close to having a guardian angel at home--if you get the right one.
Saturday, May 5. 2007
Are you pissed off with your kids? Children can be angels and demons at one time. Funny how you exhilarate in joy and pride soon as they emerge into this world. But when it comes to changing stinky diapers and the gory mess of childhood madness, I'm sure you just want to push them back into their mother's womb. But hey, life is bittersweet! There's no fun when there isn't pain. At least these kids make it worthwhile for you and your wife!
Friday, May 4. 2007
Once I was a kid, and I remember how times have drastically changed. I was the yesterday's child and my boy is the kid of today. Before, we were encouraged to work in order to find our own way to earn a decent wage or allowance. Yet today, children need to search for the alternative avenues just so they can have their Gameboy or PSP. Kids under 12 used to be fragile, but now they are considered weird and eccentric. We ask all sorts of question. Kids today struggle for the chance to be heard in the society. There's a great difference from yesterday and today, and personally, I prefer the kids back then.
Thursday, May 3. 2007
 Even with an evolving psychological paradigm, kids today are doomed with indifference and insincerity. We truly had a hard time before to be accepted uniquely. But today, boys are dismissed as having no sense at all. The world tolerates them with much disrespect. It's okay to be naughty, it's okay to be rowdy, because boys will be boys. All the world could care about are men. Men who slips into greed and notoriety yet we hail them as leaders of our society. So which is better, yesterday or today?
Wednesday, May 2. 2007
I'm an average man with a more or less average life. But if there's one consolation out of this grueling excuse, it is my sweet boy Matthew. He made life seem more special when he came to our world. He's our bounty of joy and pride. And every night, my wife and I make tuck him early in bed just after we put down his favorite Mark Twain adventures. But whenever he wakes up, he'll soon find his way into our room and share the bed with us. There's nothing wrong with it, only every waking moment of my life, I find myself drenched in his sea of yellow fluid, Matthew's disgusting urine. I thought that the most dreadful day in a daddy's life is changing the diapers, until Matthew's bedwetting scare. I love him dearly, but I can't help but lock our doors in the middle of the night. Will that make me a bad daddy?
Tuesday, May 1. 2007
Bedwetting is very common among kids under the age of six but I don't personally approve of it especially when it sometimes last until the preteens. Nobody knows for sure why kids wet their beds. It's considered to be a phase or part of development and hopefully kids will just outgrow this nightly ritual. Although it has nothing to do with any health or disturbing emotional issues, bedwetting can be a source of stress and humiliating situations. Like for instance, my boy Matthew can't even spend a night with his friends or his cousins. We're scared that Matthew may embarrass himself in front of the other boys. I can try to be patient and less cranky when I change his bedsheets, but I can't risk Matthew to be taunted by other kids just because he can't control his damn spill. So even if it's just a bedwetting scheme, it really got me worried for a time.
Monday, April 30. 2007
I was relieved to learn that our bedwetting scare can just bid bye bye one night. Sometimes it just leaves the boy on its own. But until then, I had to discipline my boy. Everytime he wets the bed, I ask him to help clean his mess so he'll realize how disgusting it can be. Though I try not to be too hard on him. I even explained that bedwetting happens to all boys his age but no one has the courage to admit the dirty deed because it can be embarrassing. And from then on, Matthew goes to the bathroom all by himself before he goes to bed. It took him a month before he got off the habit. Everytime he would creep up to bed between me and my wife, at least when I wake up all I feel is his embrace. I'm just glad that everything's back to normal.
Sunday, April 29. 2007
When a child does something good, you give him candy as a token of appreciation. When a child does something bad, you whip him strongly with a rod. I don't think so! Rewards and punishment does not enforce discipline at any cost. It just exposes the child to early extortion and bribery. And I don't think that's a good example for an inquisitive mind. But when no one's watching and the child still chooses to do the right thing, now that's discipline and character in the making!
Saturday, April 28. 2007
 Fringe benefits and perks? Now that's a cherry dressing on a cake, and everyone will surely grab a bite. But what if you can't have cherry all the time, will it still be tempting and irresistible? Now for a child, that makes a huge difference. Rewards will help them do better in school, will make them behave at their best, and will even make them love you more. But is it the right way to raise a child? To lure them with gifts so you can have your way with them? Instead of a reward, replace it with love. You need not be too generous. You need to be loving and caring so they will understand the importance of love and discipline at an early age. Focus on reasons, why they have to follow rules than to stress on materialistic gains. After all, they're just kids, so manipulate them, but with love and reason of course.
Friday, April 27. 2007
Whip it hard, whip it strong so he will not be wrong? Now that's an Adolf Hitler strategy, and even history has proven that it only incite fear not discipline and respect. Yes, you need to punish a child so he will learn. You definitely don't want to spoil them and turn them into evil brats. But the moment you hit them, they see the world in a violent way. If there's one rule that I consistently impose, it's love. Whether you spare the rod or hit them wild, just remember to communicate love even when you hurt your child. Love can change even the most despicable of all characters.
Thursday, April 26. 2007
Liar, liar, pants on fire! My sister used to sing and jeer at me whenever my mom will catch me with my mischievous acts and I would often make up excuses just so I could avoid punishment. But my mom would always punish me not with her spanking but with a threat like Pinocchio's. She said that if I continuously lie, one day my nose would grow long and there's nothing I can do to push it back. And if God decides that I've done enough as a naughty boy, I would transform into a wooded puppet like Pinocchio. From then on, I would always tell the truth. But kids nowadays are too clever. You can't possibly manipulate them with Pinocchio's story. Is it time for desperate measures?!
Wednesday, April 25. 2007
Do we have to punish lying? Certainly! At an early stage, we must control our child's urge to lie. We could always threaten them not to lie, however, it may do more harm than good. Although you mean good, it only reinforces fear, and this fear may become their very reason to lie. They fear of getting punished so they decide not to confess their sins. Oftentimes, you may also send mixed signals. Even if they admit the deed, you'll punish them anyway, so might as well lie and keep their embarrassments to themselves.
Tuesday, April 24. 2007
 Even if you blare out with all the nasty threats and curses, this won't stop your child from lying. So you're only left with what? Punishment? Maybe, but make it an effective one. Be more careful and loving when you're reinforcing the punishment. It's not a time to cast blame or to further upset your child. Look for the source of his lying habits and motivate your kid to change. When you caught them in the act, don't jump into action just yet. Be a wiser parent by using reverse psychology. Tell them how your were hurt by their lies. I'm sure they'll be drawn to tears. Most important of all, encourage honesty and develop the value of truth.
Monday, April 23. 2007
Many couples fear that once they welcome a new member of the family, they will have to cease the fun and adventure and take on the commitment of being full-time parents. Yes, there's no escaping the responsibility once it's there. But don't you think of them as pests or hindrance to success. They're not taking your life away from you. Kids are not asking you to give it up, they just want to be a part of it. You don't need to be there 24/7, but just a little special time together. So how do you spend that cherished moments with kids when you're juggling up work and family at the same time?
Sunday, April 22. 2007
Whenever you can, read to them. Let them inherit the same hobby and cultivate their budding minds with wonders, facts, and fantasy that you can afford with the cheap thrills of having a book. Make sure that they understand the story and allow them to express their own views. Expose them to the gift of literature and imagination.
Saturday, April 21. 2007
Catch up with each other's life to create a stronger link. It's not an excuse that you're busy all the time. Tell them stories about your family, their granny, or your childhood days. Connect them to your past and update them everyday with your experience. You'll see that it's not only a fun way to bond but a precious moment to open up and share.
Friday, April 20. 2007
 TV's not bad if you make use of it to control their environment. Teach them values and allow them to express their views. See the world with them while you help them harness their judgment and skills. TV time is a wonderful experience to be with your kids minus the odd, awkward moments.
Just a little time, a little smile, will make them all right.
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Nanny Service Agency Comments
Thu, 12.10.2006 11:33
Kids are becoming too needy and materialistic. They don't realize responsibility at an early age.
Thu, 12.10.2006 11:32
I prefer the social environment before when there's more love and care.
Sun, 08.10.2006 18:10
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Sun, 08.10.2006 09:46
I did wet my bed until I'm 13. It's my deep drak secret.
Sun, 08.10.2006 09:46
Bedwetting is common but there are times when you have to see a doctor to control the habit.
Sat, 07.10.2006 06:24
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Wed, 04.10.2006 11:35
Talk to them first. Don't just punish them. When you listen, they tell you everything.
Wed, 04.10.2006 11:35
Punishment always reinforce discipline. I'd rather have a fearful child than a rotten brat.
Fri, 22.09.2006 14:39
My mistake as a mother is to spoil my kids. Even now, it's too late to back out as a doting, abused mother.
Fri, 22.09.2006 14:39
I think what we feel now has a lot to do with how we were taken cared of before.
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Wed, 20.09.2006 17:01
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Sat, 16.09.2006 15:58
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